Art of Communicating

Communication is simply getting information from one mind to the other. Ah, but how we do it and how effectively we do it will most certainly determine whether we are being understood and if the message we are trying to convey has been received.

Communication is the product of a shared understanding.

Effective communication requires applying both the Art of Language and Art of Listening. By combining the Art of Listening and The Art of Language we can significantly improve our communication skills. Our language, both verbal and non verbal is the vehicle that carries the message of what we are thinking, feeling or imagining. Equally, attitudes, feelings and personality will also affect the message.
Excellent communication is the speaker’s ability to broadcast a message to a listener and have that message clearly understood in the listeners mind. Excellent communication is also the ability of the listener to receive that message and be able to reproduce the intent and form of the message in their mind. If the listener is unclear or uncertain about all or some aspect of a communication, it is their responsibility to clarify the communication through the skillful use of questions. The speaker also accepts the responsibility for the result of a communication. The speaker must be certain to language a communication so it is received in a manner that is understandable to the listener.

Many, if not most, communication problems arise from the idea that communication is simple. A communication is not just a bunch of organized words. It is a combination of words, meanings, feelings and thoughts. How we program the message in our mind and transmit it to the listener includes more than the sounds of words; our unique personality, attitudes and feelings can be incorporated.

Our culture, current state of being, background, upbringing and personality will filter all communication. If you are tired, stressed, nervous, under pressure, lack confidence or in circumstances that are unpleasant, communication becomes that much more difficult and can block our intent to the listener.

Additional factors that can affect our ability to clearly communicate as well as, someone’s understanding of what we are trying to communicate can be; Are there any background experiences that we share? How much alike are we? Do we have similar or dissimilar attitudes, language skills and beliefs? Have we made any stereotypical assumptions about each other?
Any person who says "I understand perfectly" is misleading themselves.

Effective communication is our doorway to loving relationships, financial wealth, and all that which we desire in life. Communication is the most talked about but least understood area of human behavior. Our ability to communicate on a myriad of levels is unique to human beings. Excellent communication skills are undeniably crucial to living a life by design. Learn to master the Art of Communicating and the keys to successful living can be yours.